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[malymin]

Nothing like getting repeatedly vagued as "a terrible anti who wants all fiction to be pedalogical and thinks it should be illegal to ship Bad Ships" when all I want is for people to stop treating a character who has experienced abuse and reads as mentally disabled as a nonperson relative to the characters he has relationships with.

I don't want to control what people ship, I can't control what people ship. Actually, I'd rather a relationship with fucked up elements be enjoyed for being fucked up rather than brushed off as NBD or treated as completely cute and fluffy. But every time someone with experiences with disability, abuse, or both tries to talk about their discomfort with how the text and fandom treat this character, and how this character is relatable and hits close to home, they get treated as trying to ruin the show for everyone.

I just want to have a nuanced conversation, where media can have both good things and bad things and we can address them both.

Instead I've seen just how little people I thought of as friendly acquaintances thought of me and people like me.

Really ruins a person's day.

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[zenigotchas]

Nobody who's willing to publicly vaguepost about you instead of directly and privately talking to you about their feelings is being a real friend or acquintance. At the very least, unfollowing quietly or reaching out to just explain that they want to part ways and why is better than gossiping about someone behind their back to others (or worse, right in front of you but in a vague enough way for plausible deniability) and causing a scene in public.